"I'm trying to 'kill my ego' but its not working! Help!"

Ah, how simple concepts become twisted and misunderstood, a tale as old as time. Let's set this one straight!

Attempting to kill anything within you is a form of extreme self-hatred and will only strengthen the grip of that part of yourself upon you by pushing it out of your conscious mind.

This includes attempting to kill the ego. I know there is alot of confusion around ego, with resources online seeming to paint the ego as bad, but the ego is necessary for everyday life on this planet and can only be set aside for certain short periods of time. It will always re-manifest because it is what protects our sacred inner selves from the "elements", or the "storm" of the external world, so to speak.

Instead, learning to accept and understand your ego while maintaining conscious awareness of your ego is the healing work. If you think about it, this makes more sense! You maintain focus enough to notice its tendencies and you can get to know it like a little child that you love very much. You don't abandon the child, but you also don't let the child run things! This is so with the ego too.

The only thing that desires to kill the ego IS the ego. It is paradoxical, just like the attempt to hate away self-hatred is paradoxical. The solution to the paradox?

Presence. Simply notice your thoughts. Awareness IS love. Notice when your ego is trying to take control, and smile, knowing the ego has no control since you have, in that moment, successfully become SELF-AWARE.

Repeat this over and over until it is automatic. The ego will learn it is not the master of you, and this will become habit so it is always obvious in the future when the ego is attempting to influence or control you.

A note here: don't try to change anything. Don't worry about changing your ego. Just observe in the moment, and the very act of observation without judgements WILL catalyze change automatically.

"A New Earth" is great further reading on this matter. Best Wishes 💚